Today I reached out to a former friend. Our friendship ended on an extremely sour note. As with most relational ends, we both had a part to play. In my attempt, I asked if we could sit down and talk through the way things went down between the two of us. While she is willing to get together, she is refusing to talk through the way our friendship ended.
We go to the same church and have several reasons for wanting to get to the point of at least being able to have small talk with her. While I’ve forgiven the hurts, pain, ect. that the friendship caused, I am having a hard time just picking up and moving on. I still have some deep wounds, scars and scabs that I feel are only going to go away if she and I can sit down like adults and talk through these issues.
We, as Christ-followers, are called to:
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with every one.” Romans 12:18
I’m having trouble figuring out what how to best heal from these scars, I’ve been praying and continue to pray for the wounds to be healed from them, but am having a hard time due to a lack of closure with the issues.
The way it looks now, I have 3 options on how to go on from here. Option 1: Just do as she said, let the past rest in the past and not deal with any lingering feelings or scars. Option 2: Journal through all the scars and such. Option 3: Just continue to avoid her and steer clear of events that we’ll both be at and praying that eventually she’ll be willing to at least talk about things.
The problem being, I don’t like any of these options. I’d rather be able to sit down and talk these things through. Since that doesn’t seem like it’s going to be possible, I’m trying to figure out the next best one.
While it’s not a chipper way to start off the week…this is the area I’m struggling the most in at this point. I’d really love advice or other ideas (more brains stirring the pot can be helpful with this).